Dating Disaster: Types To Never Date

In the dating realm, there are certain character traits that should be avoided. It may be hard to imagine people fitting into such broad categories, but many dating disasters can be avoided by eliminating certain people from your relationship spectrum based on their dating characteristics.

Here are some common attributes to steer clear of:

Never-Date Types – Male

• Lack of ambition – You do not want to be the one responsible for motivating your significant other to do something meaningful with his life.
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  If the guy you are dating expects you to carry him financially and does not show any drive or ambition to return the favor, you should re-evaluate your dating scenario.
• Commitment-phobic – This guy begins the relationship well. He showers you with attention and devotion and, just when you think you see a future with him, you hit a brick wall. The commitment-phobic guy reels you in with promises of the future only to create a defense when your guard is down, revealing his inability to settle.
• Mama's boy – You want a guy who has a good relationship with his mother, but not one where he puts her up on such a high pedestal she is untouchable. You should avoid dating the type of guy who will defend his mother when she treats you badly or when she is clearly in the wrong.
• Womanizer – This smooth guy comes across as a charmer and often is good-looking and intelligent, telling you just what you want to hear. The problem: you are not the only one he is telling this to. Womanizers should be avoided in the dating scene. They may take you to fancy restaurants and buy you flowers, but probably will not remember your name as it becomes difficult to juggle so many women.
• Possessive/Controlling – Okay, it can be kind of cute and sometimes even a turn-on when your guy gets jealous if someone checks you out as you walk by. But no one should be subjected to dating the possessive, controlling type who hounds you about where you are going, who you are with and what you are wearing. The novelty quickly wears off and becomes plain annoying, if not dangerous. If the man you are dating is not secure enough in himself and your relationship, you do not need to be dating him.
• Workaholic – Sure, you want a man who has ambition and is financially secure, but do you really want to play second fiddle to his career? The guy who cannot make it to your children's' school plays and soccer games because he is tied up at the office should be avoided. He does not know how to strike a balance between his work and personal life.

Never-Date Types – Female

• Possessive/Controlling – Every guy needs his space. Steer clear of a girl who wants you to spend every moment with her and questions where you are and what you are doing at all times.
• Image-obsessed – Girls who are obsessed with staying thin and insist on starving themselves to fit in with the latest fashion trends should be avoided. Who wants to go to dinner with someone who stares hungrily at your steak while she refuses to touch a thing on her plate? Dating a girl with this level of insecurity may be detrimental to your own self-perception.
• Gold digger – Guys, you know this type. A gold digger is someone who wants to know where you work and what kind of car you drive before she asks your name. She is not interested in you; she is only interested in what you can buy her and how you can help maintain her lavish lifestyle. You cannot buy someone's love. Move on.
• Manipulative – Women who constantly play mind games should be avoided. Although women may be more complex in their expression of emotions while men generally are more comfortable being straightforward, there is only so much guessing you can do. If she does not feel comfortable telling you what she wants and relies instead on manipulation, you should avoid dating her.

The most important lesson is to date people whose values match your own. If you are a devout religious person and find yourself constantly defending your beliefs to your atheist partner, the relationship likely is doomed. Never date a person who is so far from you on the spectrum that one of you will end up compromising your beliefs. It will cause nothing, but grief and heartache in the long run. And remember, no matter how much you love someone, you cannot change them. People do have the power to change, but it must come from within and not as a result of dating.