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Boosting Self-Esteem Post-Break Up
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Published: August 17, 2006
Boosting Self-Esteem After a Break up
Break ups are difficult for several reasons. Not only do you miss the person you were once with, but you also have to deal with all the vacant time you now have. This was time you used to spend with your significant other.
It can be challenging to say the least, but it is important to remain confident that what did not work out was not meant to be. Though you may be tempted to hide under the covers and feel sorry for yourself, the best remedy to boost your self-esteem is to get out of the house and participate in life.
While there is nothing wrong with lounging around in your pajamas in front of the TV once in a while, try to break the habit by getting out of the house. Keep up with your daily routines of going to work or school and exercising. Continue to do whatever you used to do pre-break up. Put on your best outfit and venture out into the world. Looking good forces you to feel good on the inside and is a quick way to boost self-esteem.
DOS AND DON'T'S OF BOOSTING SELF-ESTEEM POST BREAK UP
DO-
• Spend some time alone – Get to know yourself again and make time for your hobbies and interests. A lot of people tend to neglect themselves in a relationship. Find out what makes you tick and devote time to making yourself happy. This is a great self-esteem booster.
• Hide relationship evidence – While you may not want to burn your ex's picture, love notes and mementos of your time together, it is a good idea to hide them. There is no need to have constant reminders of your past in your present life. Out of sight, out of mind really does work.
• Spend time with friends – Get your pals together for a night out. Hopefully you have not lost touch with your friends while you were in your relationship and can still call on them to comfort you. There is nothing like spending time with friends and sharing a few laughs to get your mind off of your break up.
• Go on dates – You are single again. Get out and meet people. Have a good time and do not commit to anyone. You have earned some time to yourself and it will take your mind off of your ex.
• Participate in new activities – Take a dance class you kept putting off because your relationship did not allow you the free time. Join a gym or take a jog around your neighborhood. You will be surprised at how good you feel and how many new people you will meet as your self-esteem soars.
DON'T-
• Bad-mouth your ex to his friends or family – While you may be tempted to call everyone your ex knows to recount the details of how he or she cheated on you or treated you poorly, take the high road.
• Begin a new relationship right away – You are on the rebound and there is no need to rush into something new until you are fully over your break up.
• Do anything drastic – You are in a vulnerable state, so think twice before getting a new tattoo or cutting off all your hair. You may regret it in a few weeks when your emotions have settled.
The bottom line is break ups can be devastating. Take time to heal. The more active you are and the more you take care of yourself, the less time you will have to dwell on the past. If you still feel miserable, fake it. The key is to pretend you are enjoying yourself and eventually you will.
Break ups are difficult for several reasons. Not only do you miss the person you were once with, but you also have to deal with all the vacant time you now have. This was time you used to spend with your significant other.
It can be challenging to say the least, but it is important to remain confident that what did not work out was not meant to be. Though you may be tempted to hide under the covers and feel sorry for yourself, the best remedy to boost your self-esteem is to get out of the house and participate in life.
While there is nothing wrong with lounging around in your pajamas in front of the TV once in a while, try to break the habit by getting out of the house. Keep up with your daily routines of going to work or school and exercising. Continue to do whatever you used to do pre-break up. Put on your best outfit and venture out into the world. Looking good forces you to feel good on the inside and is a quick way to boost self-esteem.
DOS AND DON'T'S OF BOOSTING SELF-ESTEEM POST BREAK UP
DO-
• Spend some time alone – Get to know yourself again and make time for your hobbies and interests. A lot of people tend to neglect themselves in a relationship. Find out what makes you tick and devote time to making yourself happy. This is a great self-esteem booster.
• Hide relationship evidence – While you may not want to burn your ex's picture, love notes and mementos of your time together, it is a good idea to hide them. There is no need to have constant reminders of your past in your present life. Out of sight, out of mind really does work.
• Spend time with friends – Get your pals together for a night out. Hopefully you have not lost touch with your friends while you were in your relationship and can still call on them to comfort you. There is nothing like spending time with friends and sharing a few laughs to get your mind off of your break up.
• Go on dates – You are single again. Get out and meet people. Have a good time and do not commit to anyone. You have earned some time to yourself and it will take your mind off of your ex.
• Participate in new activities – Take a dance class you kept putting off because your relationship did not allow you the free time. Join a gym or take a jog around your neighborhood. You will be surprised at how good you feel and how many new people you will meet as your self-esteem soars.
DON'T-
• Bad-mouth your ex to his friends or family – While you may be tempted to call everyone your ex knows to recount the details of how he or she cheated on you or treated you poorly, take the high road.
• Begin a new relationship right away – You are on the rebound and there is no need to rush into something new until you are fully over your break up.
• Do anything drastic – You are in a vulnerable state, so think twice before getting a new tattoo or cutting off all your hair. You may regret it in a few weeks when your emotions have settled.
The bottom line is break ups can be devastating. Take time to heal. The more active you are and the more you take care of yourself, the less time you will have to dwell on the past. If you still feel miserable, fake it. The key is to pretend you are enjoying yourself and eventually you will.
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